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New Year’s Eve Goal Review December 31, 2010

Every year I set new goals for myself and for my writing. I posted my writing goals for 2010 on this blog along with my focus statement and my Top Five Priority List. You’ll see that again in the New Year. But for now, I want to check my list to see how well I did in 2010. 
My Writing Goals for 2010
*finish 4th book revision, possibly make it a single title DONE
*enter 4 contests at a minimum with 4th MS, including the MAGGIES and GH DONE
*start fifth first draft of story plotted loosely during a writing workshop DONE
*work on fifth first draft during TOUR DE FORCE in February STARTED IN NOVEMBER 
*write every day except for high days DONE
*continue querying agents and editors with 3rd MS DONE
*send partial request and synopsis to agent for 4th MS DONE
*maintain daily blog REVISED TO 3X A WEEK
*continue guest blogging on Romance Magicians DONE
*judge writing contests DONE — judged 3 that I can remember
*attend Moonlight and Magnolias Writing Conference DONE
*attend RWA National Conference DONE
*pitch 4th book at both conferences DONE
*help with PRO Retreat DONE
*continue learning and growing in my craft with online courses and craft books DONE
*read for fun DONE but would like to increase time spent reading for pleasure
*get a domain name DONE 
*coordinate online workshops for the Heart of Dixie DONE
*find a co-chair for the online workshop coordination DONE
*work on YA idea over the summer Played with the YA idea on Scrivener
*realize that life happens and enjoy the detours Yup, done!
*set top 5 priority list and review it regularly to maintain my focus DONE
*be courageous, strong and focused on my dreams and goals DONE

Wow, I accomplished almost everything I asked myself to do this year. I love this list. And I love all the DONEs. These were reasonable and attainable goals. I can’t wait to see what my list looks like in the new year after I sit down and think about 2011. I’m excited about all the upcoming possibilities and new directions I will go as a writer. 

What goals did you set for the year? Did you revisit them? If you haven’t set goals yet, I encourage you to write them down and post them somewhere (publicly or privately). Share your victories and celebrate your successes. 

Focus on what you have accomplished this year and reward yourself for all your hard work.

And now it’s time to usher in another new year with some champagne and dark chocolate.

Seekerville Goal Setting Post
Word Wenches Procrastination Post


Sacrificial Rites & Perfecting Priorities November 19, 2010

I’ve been working on a submission and believe me, my derriere feels the pain. So do my hands! Oh, the nails that once were long and beautiful are short little stubs. And I don’t even want to discuss the hangnails. They are the bane of my existence. But sacrifices must be made in order to achieve my goals.

Here are some of the easier sacrifices I make when I am working toward a deadline:

1-Cooking? What’s that? People, people in the house. Find a pop tart and deal.
2-Cleaning the bathrooms. A little bleach in the bowl goes a LONG way.
3-Why clean floors when they are just going to get dirty again?
4-Unimportant phone calls aren’t answered–I’m talking the solicitation kind.
5-Social media is put on the back burner (but I still check occasionally)
6-Makeup? Hair? What? I’m a writer, not a movie star.
7-Ironing. Like that was hard haha.
8-Menu planning. Isn’t that why frozen lasagna and pizza were invented? To ease my life?
9-Kitty litter scooping–someone else can do it for a change.
10-Watching television–thank goodness for the DVR and taping shows!

But in the midst of making sacrifices, I also know there are some things that cannot be ignored. Here are some priorities I keep no matter what, or who, is demanding my time:

1-Grocery shopping. Apparently food must be in the house even if it is a frozen pizza.
2-Laundry. Clean clothes are a must even if I am not a movie star.
3-Care and feeding of the cats–someone has to keep DFC full on Beechnut Organic baby food.
4-Sleeping. Can’t write if my brain is dead.
5-Eating. Can’t write if my tummy is rumbling.
6-Exercise. Must remain healthy and strong if I am going to keep on writing.
7-Being available to my closest friends in their times of need (friends are forever).
8-Spending time with my Darling Husband. After all, he’s my first hero.
9-A modicum of social time cause I can’t thrive without people contact.
10-Being available to my Darling Teenager in times of stress and in times of jubilation.

Tip: know your priorities and then you’ll know what you can give up to achieve your goals.

What sacrifices are you making to achieve your goals? What are your top priorities and why?

Fabulous Friday Blog Roll

Rewards & Positive Reinforcement–Even When You Don’t Succeed November 12, 2010

I didn’t grow up in a household where there were a lot of rewards for good behavior. And we sure weren’t rewarded for trying to be good either. So I came to this little idea of rewarding myself for not succeeding very slowly.

Apparently cleaning bathrooms after finishing a major project is not considered a reward. This is how well-trained I was not to get something good even when I deserved it for all my hard work.

But that is just stinky. Literally. Who wants to clean house after they’ve finished a paper, written a book, painted a picture, applied for graduate school, graduated from college, and the list goes on. I’ve learned to give myself breaks, but I had to teach myself to give myself rewards.

Kelly L. Stone articulated that precept for me at the GRWA Moonlight & Magnolias Conference in Atlanta, Georgia. She gave me a few new ideas about how to reward myself while I am working toward a goal. I came home from the conference and implemented one. A successful author pays herself a quarter every time she meets her word count for the day. I decided to make a Reward Jar and got $20 in quarters to fill it.

Note: It’ll take a LOT of those rolls to fill my cutesy decorated tin can!

Any rate, I modified the reward system to include meeting every goal I set for the day as a writer (I might add exercise to that because I have been slacking off–which is a post for another day). So if my goal was to get a submission ready, a contest entry ready, a chapter read in my media book by Kristen Lamb, or my homework completed in the Alexandra Sokoloff online workshop I’m taking then I drop a quarter into the jar every time I meet the goal.

Another thing I’ve done is reward myself for having tried and failed. As a writer I must put myself out there all the time with query letters, sending out partials, full manuscripts and entering contests. I am not really into the administrative end of this business, so it is like poking a fork into my eyeball to do these things. I’d rather write my stories or blog than do it. Seriously. But the work must be done. The possibility of rejections must be faced.

So here’s how I cope. First, I get a quarter for completing the task. Then I devised a system for rewarding myself if I didn’t get the answer I wanted (BIG YES or YOU FINALED!!). I pay myself for not getting those answers. Yup. Now these numbers can be adjusted to be coins, less money, more money, Hershey’s kisses–you get the picture.

Here’s my payment scale:

Rejected Query? $1
Rejected Partial? $5
Rejected Full? $20
Didn’t Final in a Contest? $5

So last week I didn’t final in a contest. BOO. That stinks. I was down in the Personal Pity Party dumps. But then I remembered I got to pay myself $5 for not finaling. That brought a smile to my face. Yay! I put all the money I pay myself into a pretty box on a shelf in my office. It’s up to you where you put your money (or Hershey’s kisses). I am saving the quarters till I have too many to count, rolling them and putting them in the box as well.

What am I saving this money for? Anything to do with my writing–nice dress for an awards ceremony, shoes, dinner with writing friends, etc.

Now if you’re not a writer and you’re pursuing another goal or dream, you can modify this little reward system to suit your dream’s not-so-happy days. For instance, if you are trying to get into university you can pay yourself for every application you send (a quarter cause those apps are expensive), for every study session you take for the SAT/ACT, for every interview you go on, for every college you tour, and for every good grade (say a B or better).

But hey? What if the college doesn’t accept you? What will you pay yourself for trying so you’ll try again?

See? This system takes the sting out of not getting what you want and gives you motivation to try again.

Try it. In fact, give yourself a quarter for reading this blog today!

Fabulous Friday Blog Roll

This week I am celebrating group blogs I reward myself with after I meet my writing goals.
1. Romance Magicians: I’m a part of the Southern Magic blog and love to read their stories.
2. Seekerville: Really inspirational group of authors.
3. Petits Fours & Tamales: Great book reviews, charity events, and more inspiration for me.
4. The Blood Red Pencil: To feed my writing brain with good info.
5. The Writing Playground: Heart of Dixie authors with fun posts.

Break Out the Bubbly & Dark Chocolate–Celebrating Kieran Kramer’s Debut Novel November 2, 2010

I’m so excited to introduce you to my friend and fellow writer, Kieran Kramer. I  met Kieran through my critique partner Sharon. Lucky for me they’re related through marriage. Now I get to celebrate Kieran’s debut novel’s release today, November 2, 2010. When Harry Met Molly.  This book is part of the Impossible Bachelors series. I’ve invited my friend to share her journey with us and celebrate the release. 
Pop! Ah, champagne flowing into glass right now. And here’s a bit of dark chocolate to go with my bubbly. And best of all, one of my commenters will win a copy of Kieran’s book! Woohoo!!
Me:  How did you end up becoming a writer?
Kieran: I’ve been writing since I was a kid. I think it all started because I loved reading. I wanted to participate in that amazing world of words and stories.
Me: What is your favorite genre to write?
Kieran: I LOVE writing historicals, so I’d have to say that’s my favorite genre!  But I also love funny contemporary stuff, so I could see myself writing that someday, too. Honestly, it’s not the genre that matters to me so much as being able to express myself, to be able to use my voice to tell a story.
Me: I really love your philosophy about writing as a way to express yourself.  Tell me about your process. Are you a plotter or do you follow the muse?
Kieran: I’m a combination, but I lean highly toward following the muse. I always start a story from one image that comes to me: an impression, a fleeting dream…. I won’t be able to get that idea out of my head, and so I build a whole story around it. But until I read craft books, I wasn’t that good at making the story as cohesive as it could be. Now I know structure, and that really helps me out when I find myself in a dark plotting corner.  Favorite craft books: everything by Blake Snyder, Syd Field, and Michael Hauge; Dwight Swain, Techniques of the Selling Writer; and Christopher Vogler, The Writer’s Journey.
Me: First another sip of champagne. Ah, and a nibble of chocolate. I like to hear that I’m not the only writer who had to read a lot of craft books and take a lot of workshops to learn “how” to tell my story. I just ordered The Writer’s Journey and I can’t wait until it arrives. I’ve got your book When Harry Met Molly pre-ordered for my fun reading. Reading is what I like do when I relax and unwind. What about you? How do you relax after a writing day?
Kieran: I watch a reality TV show with my daughter, something really silly and fun like Project Runway or the Housewives series, or I might watch Modern Family or The Office with the whole family. Sometimes I’ll take an evening walk with my husband or go visit my wonderful neighbors. I don’t do anything spectacular. But one way I pamper myself every day is to keep a pile of excellent reading material on my bedside table and lying around the house. I’m always reading at least two novels at a time and some magazines.
Me: What do you read? What are your favorite genres? Who are your favorite authors?
Kieran: I read everything, but I focus more on novels than non-fiction. My favorite genres to read in? Of course, romance is my all-time favorite, both contemporaries and historicals. LaVyrle Spencer is my favorite romance author, but I adore so many others as well. We should be proud of how many spectacular romance authors are on the shelves right now!
Other favorite books and authors:  A Tree Grows in Brooklyn, by Betty Smith; I Capture the Castle, by Dodie Smith; To Kill a Mockingbird, by Harper Lee; and Mistress of Mellyn, by Victoria Holt. I also love Mark Twain, Charles Dickens, Laura Ingalls Wilder, James Herriot, and too many others for me to be able to name them all. 
Me: Your bookshelf and mine sound alike. . Now I’m curious about your next project. What are you working on now?
Kieran:  I’m writing Book 4 in my Impossible Bachelors series.  The title is not set yet—we’re still mulling it over. I love a good title, though. It gets me psyched to write the book.
Me: I love your titles for the books. I can see why they inspire you. Today we’re celebrating your debut release When Harry Met Molly. How soon will we see your next book in the Impossible Bachelors series?
Kieran: Dukes to the Left of Me, Princes to the Right is coming out Nov. 30th!  And Cloudy with a Chance of Marriage comes out next April.
Me: Awesome. I don’t have to wait too long for my next Kieran Kramer book. This debut is very exciting, but we all know getting published is hard. How long were you trying to get published before you got the call?
Kieran: I wrote my first book fifteen years ago. It was a 60,000-word Regency. That went nowhere—I sent it out to one publisher, and when it got rejected, I put it away (I had a dog’s POV in it! And I didn’t know what head hopping, conflict, or pacing were). I also didn’t know I should keep submitting. I assumed that if one person said they didn’t want it, it was no good.  Over the next decade, I got smarter: I joined RWA, and when the Romance Writers Report came every month in the mail, I’d read it cover to cover, which helped me keep the dream alive (although I didn’t seek out a local RWA chapter, and I should have).
The bald truth is, I didn’t focus on my writing dream as much as a person who wants to get into the business should.  I started a lot of manuscripts and didn’t get past Chapter 3 in most of them. The truth was, for me writing was more a hobby and a form of stress relief, a haven I could go to when I needed to replenish me. There’s nothing wrong with that, either. I learned a lot in those years!
But time marched on. I was super busy with my kids, and we moved a lot, and life just happened. It wasn’t until my husband got laid off from work about five or six years ago that I got the notion that I had the talent it took to make money with my writing. I began to go to the National RWA conference. That catapulted me to the next level of believing. I saw that this was the place where I would learn the ropes, and I would take full advantage of it. I started reading craft books and writing full or almost full manuscripts rather than snippets. All told, I wrote about four manuscripts over those five years. And then my husband went to Afghanistan and suddenly—age 40 was behind me. That was scary. I didn’t want to have any regrets about not pursuing my dreams! I wanted my kids to see that we should all have dreams and go for them. Everything clicked. I felt it the time was right to go all out, full speed ahead, and do this thing. Simply put, I gave myself permission to put my personal passion for writing at the top of my list of priorities. That’s when I sold When Harry Met Molly.
Me: Wow, your story is amazing. No regrets and wanting to teach our children to go for their dreams are the main reasons I’m pursuing the dream and waiting for the “call” myself. I know I’ve got champagne chilling in my fridge for thad day. So tell me, what was it like when you finally got the “call?” How did you celebrate?
Kieran: I’m a very simple person, so I didn’t do anything immediately but call my distant family and share lots of hugs from nearby family and friends.  The big celebration came when we got to go to Disney World for the first time. My kids had never been, and two of them were teens. One was ten.  We had such a great time!
Me: I think going to Disney World is a fabulous way to celebrate your success and to share the victory with your family. I might have to do that when I get “the call.” But there’s one thing I’ve always wanted to ask, is it really a “call?”
Kieran: It was a phone call, and I was driving on a very narrow country road when it came! I told my agent I had to hang up or I’d drive off into a corn field!! I was on my way to jury duty, actually. It was fabulous because in the courtroom, we were told to stand and announce our profession, and I got to say, “Hi, I’m Kieran Kramer and I’m a full-time writer.” That was cool!  I just had jury duty this week (again, but a different court) and I’ve since learned that a lot of published people say, “Author” when asked to describe their profession. But I still prefer to say writer—because paid or not, I am a writer, first and foremost. It’s who I am, whereas the word “author” describes my output combined with the efforts of a marvelous publishing team. As proud as I am of being an author, I want to stay focused on the core of who I am, which is simply—writer. That might be splitting hairs for some people, but the distinction matters to me.
Me: I love how you separate the idea of being an author from being a writer. This gives authenticity to those of us who are not published yet. What about aspiring writers? What advice would you give to them?
Kieran: To believe in what you’re writing. If you don’t believe, it won’t be any good. Always turn inward, every day, and say, “Why am I doing this?” Ponder it for a moment. Another question you could ask is, “What is it I really want to say?” It’s important to start at the foundation and figure out why you write.  Until you do that, you won’t hone in on the passion deep inside you that gives you the impetus to write and infuses life into your writing.  In a nutshell, know your worldview and always find your passion.
Me: Excellent advice. What encouragement can you give writers who face rejection?
Kieran: First of all, it’s often not you, and many times it’s not your manuscript. Sometimes it’s simply that an agent or editor is looking for something different. The same way that we all buy winter coats but choose different styles, colors, and fabrics, editors and agents have their own personal preferences. You could have a perfectly lovely manuscript, but it simply doesn’t appeal to that editor or agent’s tastes. Too many writers don’t seem to be aware of this and take rejection as a sign that their writing is not good.
Keep submitting until you locate that agent or editor who looks at it and goes, “Wow!” You want someone to be excited about your work.
If you’re submitting for a long time, and every editor and agent offers the same reason for  rejecting it, then maybe you should do something different. But you have to decide what “a long time” is. That’s personal. We all develop at different rates in everything we do, including writing. If you want to give yourself just one year—or five or ten—before you change your patterns, that’s fine. No one should tell you how long you should give yourself. Some people like to tweak things constantly so they have a faster learning curve. It suits their personalities. But others like their voice to develop like a fine wine. It’s all in what YOU want to do.
But set yourself those goals. Give yourself that deadline. Be aware of what you’re doing. Don’t just keep floating without a plan.
Me: You’ve faced rejection, learned to set goals, and worked through years of learning how to craft a story. What is the most difficult thing about writing for you today?
Kieran: Trying to plot out the story ahead of time. I simply can’t get more than the basic turning points on my storyboard or in a synopsis, and even then, they change. For me, the story evolves as I go.
Me: What is the most surprising thing you discovered after you received the “call”?
Kieran: That life doesn’t really change that much. But I like it that way and prepared myself for it to be that way, actually. I intentionally went into this adventure telling myself that I already have everything I need, and I do. I have a loving family, true friends, a roof over my head, and food in my belly. I’m extremely blessed.
I think it’s very important, no matter where you are in life, to remember what your essence is versus your identity (thanks, Michael Hauge, for your Essence vs. Identity talk). I have a lot of identities, and I love my new identity as an author. But the most important thing of all is that underneath all my roles, I want to be a good person.  If I’m remembered simply as that, I’ll be happy.
Thanks for having me today, Christine! I love your blog, and I think it’s because you are a very passionate person. Your worldview definitely comes through in your writing. Your cup is half-full instead of half-empty, and that’s an awesome way to be.
Me: Thanks for your kind words, Kieran. I’m so glad you stopped in for some champagne and dark chocolate to celebrate today’s release of your debut novel When Harry Met Molly. 



Positive Peer Pressure October 29, 2010

You’ve embarked on a journey toward a goal. One you believe in and want to achieve. You tell someone about your dream. That person laughs, asks if you are crazy, rains on your parade and tell you it is unattainable.

Now, if you are a 70 year old and you’ve just told your wife you’re thinking about becoming a circus high wire act despite the fact that you have no coordination then you might deserve the above scenario.

Yes, dreams should be realistically attainable.

If your dream is realistically attainable, and someone in your life says you shouldn’t try to attain this dream, then you need reevaluate your relationship with that person.

Tip for the Day: Surround yourself with positive, supportive people as you pursue your dream. 

I wrote about my own journey from solitary writer to writer with a wealth of support here. I’ve heard the negative comments. One close relative said “you’ll never get published” when I told her I was writing a book. Do I share my dreams with her now? No way because I believe I will get that call. But it’s more than my own faith in my dream. I want the people in my life to be excited for me because I’m doing something I love. It feeds my soul in ways that I never expected. The end result? Publication? That’s just part of the dream. I am living my dream. I am a writer. I write. I am happy because I am writing.

Here’s the thing: people who are negative about your dreams and your goals aren’t happy so they don’t want you to be happy either.

Trust me. I’ve learned this lesson and it has served me well. I repeat: when someone is mean or nasty to you and rains on your parade it is because that person doesn’t want you to be happy and fulfilled.

I am writing because it brings me joy. Sure there are days that I want to drop kick my laptop to the ends of the earth. I get frustrated. I feel the sting of rejection and throw personal pity parties (for a finite amount of time), but I keep on writing because that is when my positive community of support comes into play. These are the people who remind me about how much fun it is to do what I do. They encourage me. They lift my spirits. They make me laugh. They drink wine and eat dark chocolate with me while they tell me YOU WILL SUCCEED.

Surround yourself with positive peers who celebrate your dream and encourage you to keep working hard to attain the prize you seek. These are the people who must be in your world as you pursue your dreams. They are the people who want you to be happy and fulfilled. They are the people who want you to have joy in your life.

And when you reach your dream? They will be first in line to celebrate your victory!


Busy-ness Can Lead to Dizzy-ness June 9, 2010

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People’s lives are busy. Some people actually define their lives by saying, “I’m so busy, or too busy or these are busy days.” They revel in the busy-ness of their lives. They revel in the going out and about to do a zillion errands, or projects, or luncheons. They revel in being seen as “busy.” Busy-ness defines their lives.

But sometimes I wonder if these people who are so “busy” are actually just avoiding themselves. Avoiding personal introspection. Avoiding examining who they are or where they need to go. Other times I wonder if these busy people are busy because it makes them feel important. The busy-ness defines them.

Ever met somebody like that? I’ve met a few. I may have actually been guilty of committing the act of “busy-ness” myself. Heck, I was young once. I did my fair share and plus of extra work when I was employed outside the home and afterward. I remember an incredibly intense time after I became a mom where I spent about 6 or 7 years volunteering in the school, the church, the neighborhood–basically did it all. For free. But then I think part of my motivation was the free babysitting *grin*.

Yup. I was a “busy” person. And I knew a lot of “busy people.” It wasn’t until I was forced to sit down and take stock that I truly began my inner journey. I admit, I was a self-help book addict for years. Heck, with the crazy dysfunctional background I came from, who wouldn’t be? But I never really examined who I wanted to be until I couldn’t be out in the world being, well, you know, “busy.”

Yup. I couldn’t be busy cause I got this weirdo bug in my ear that made me dizzy. Beyond dizzy. I had a serious cases of perpetual vertigo. It was the kind of vertigo that made me sick, blackout, with tremenous heat and frightening moments of disorientation. And the only way to beat it back was to STOP BEING SO BUSY.

I was felled by a tiny bug in my inner ear for 6 MONTHS.

At first I was so sick, I didn’t have much energy. I napped. Unheard of in my house. I am a “get up and go” kinda girl. Naturally, after I had a few months of serious downtime, I got bored. You know boredom is actually not a bad thing. Boredom means you’re healing. Boredom means your mind is getting ready for the next creative adventure.

Now if a “get up and go” girl can’t really, uh, go anywhere in the real world, what is she going to do? Oh, hmmm, any good guesses out there? Oh, yeah. Write. And that is how I rediscovered what I know I was always meant to do. I began writing my first novel. It was an escape, a joyful experience, and I fell in love with my childhood dreams again.

That was a wonderful year. The said book was finished, queried and requested by Silhouette Desire BEFORE I even knew about RWA, CRAFT, ETC.

Fast forward almost five years. I’m still focused on the writing. I love it. I have four books under my belt (though I call them 8 given all the recent plot revisions) and I am submitting, being requested, and happily involved in all my RWA/PRO/Chapter organizations. I am also blogging, FaceBook connecting (imagine if they’d had facebook back when I first got DIZZY? I might not be writing cause I’d be “busy” connecting with my social network), TWEETING, helping with an online workshop, volunteering to help with the PRO Retreat, judging contests, entering contests…. YIKES! I am afraid I might get dizzy again.

And yes, before you ask, I am blond. Let the jokes begin and end now.

But I won’t get DIZZY. You know why I believe in my heart I won’t get dizzy? Because all my “busy” stuff is what I want to do for my career (and my family–which comes FIRST). I have learned the fine art of saying “no.” Or, better, “let me get back to you about that request after I think about it.” Or better yet, “I would like some help with this please.”

Most of all, I’ve given myself permission to walk away from my commitments and take a breath. When dinner starts, if the phone rings, I don’t answer it. Period. I keep my commitments to a set amount and I don’t feel obligated to be perfect (losing perfectionism is a great way to give up the “busy” life). I don’t say “yes” to make someone think better of me. And I don’t say “yes” to gain approval or puff up my ego. Frankly, I don’t consider saying “yes” to anything that does not reflect my Top 5 Priority List.

Ah, the Top 5 Priority List. I shared this list with you in January. I learned about this method of establishing boundaries from a LIFE MAKEOVER book I read when I was dizzy. I reevaluate it every quarter. Usually it stays the same, at least the top 2 items stay the same. The bottom 3 vary depending on season, where I am in my life, and how the rest of the family is faring.

But what is a priority? What does this word mean to you? Here is a brief dictionary explanation:

Priority Defined:


*A thing that is regarded as more important than another.
The housework didn’t figure high on her list of priorities.
Seriously? It never does figure high on my list of priorities. Sure I want to prevent my toilets from being deemed toxic & hazardous, but if my house is dirty and you want to come over cause you’re down or need a friendly face, I’m your girl!

*The fact or condition of being regarded or treated as important.
The safety of the country takes priority over every other matter.
Or, the health and welfare of my family, and myself, is regarded or treated as important. If I am trying to do too much, everyone suffers, including me. 

*The right to take precedence or proceed before others.
Priority is given to those with press passes.
Now I love this. The items/things/people who take precedence or proceed before others in my life are my family first, my writing (actual writing, not blogging or stuff of that nature), my health, my dearest friends, my spirit and my soul. Everybody and everything else must wait in line. Period.

This getting your priorities straight isn’t a perfect process. Sometimes I revert and nibble a bit more off than I can chew. Usually the first thing that suffers is my health. So I get a pretty quick reminder to get my priorities sorted.

Ironically, my weirdest time to keep my priorities straight is through the summer months. I’ve got these writing goals, but I scale them back a bit, or make room for flexible writing time, during this time of year. Darling Daughter is underfoot, we’ve got summer travel plans, and I want to enjoy my family during these lazy days. I don’t stop writing, but I do break it up differently. And again, my priority is to work on my MS or WIP in Revision. If I’m not on Facebook or I miss a blog post, well that means I’m focusing on my first priority: health and happiness of my family. We’re probably at the pool, or shopping, or visiting some museum. And that’s okay.

That’s the key to maintaining your priorities and boundaries: telling yourself it’s okay to let something slide or go slack every once in a while. REALLY!


Drum Roll & Recap Roll May 24, 2010

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This week, despite all the constant interruptions and distractions, I finished my second MAGGIE contest entry and sent it to the coordinator.

WOOT!! So relieved to get the entry completed and out of my hair.

Now my goals and tasks for the week are defined:

*continue revising & polishing with the new plot line in mind
*add scenes where necessary
*pull together my partial and send of the requested materials to the agent
*query two other publishing houses with my third MS

And I have some rewards to give myself for completing my arduous task:

*get my hair cut and highlighted *highly necessary*
*schedule some pampering time this week
*meet with a good friend who is also a writer and enjoy her company

When you finish a major task, do you reward yourself with something fun? I hope so! And if do, I’d love to learn how!