I once had the privilege of hearing Nora Roberts speak at the Romance Writers of America National Conference. She was the keynote luncheon speaker, and she gave an “author chat” later that day, too. Her books are too many to count and she is very dedicated to her career.
What’s her secret? Just write.
What’s her message to people who give excuses and stay on the sidelines? Get in the pool and start swimming.
This message is true for anyone pursuing any activity or goal. If you want to do something and achieve something, please don’t sit around and make excuses for not doing it. This is just another way of avoiding the possibility of failure. We’ve all been there. We’ve all failed. The trick is to move beyond the failure and keep on trying.
Here’s my tip for the week: Whenever you hear yourself saying “I’d like to do this BUT ….” turn around the phrase and say, “Even though this situation exists, I am going to push myself to work toward my goal anyway.”
Here’s some wonderful excuses I’ve heard whenever I hear people say they’d like to write a book, or they could write a book, or how easy it is to write a book if only….
They’d do what I’ve done if only they had enough time. Well we’ve already discussed the time issue here. They’d do what I’ve done if only they didn’t have a day job. I’ve got friends who work full time and write and raise families. Somehow they manage to make the time. They’d do what I’ve done if only they had no health problems, no people tugging for their attention, no family members sick, no… no… no…
Hmmmm. I see a pattern here. A pattern punctuated by one word. The word “no” is ringing in my ears. If only? If only is another way of saying “no.” “But” is another way of saying “no.”
Turn this around. Tell yourself “yes.” Yes, I will make the time. I will set aside a place for my dream. I will go for it. I will push through the litany of words that hold me back from achieving my true potential. I will seek out the joy of pursuing my dream despite the possibility of failure. I will push through the disappointments and letdowns until I emerge victorious.